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Ep. 23· September 9, 2026· 32 min

Homeschooling Part 1: We Thought We Were Doing It Right. We Weren't

I didn't think I could do it. I had a college degree and still thought a classroom would do it better. Daniel knew from the time he was sixteen that our children would be homeschooled. He wasn't arrogant about it. He was just clear. The worldview being taught in a classroom, that evolution is fact and God is theory, was enough for him to decide. That was enough for me too, eventually. But even knowing the why, I put McKenna in a classical Christian private school for K4. Because I was certain they could do it better than I could. That's where this episode starts. Part 1 of our homeschooling series covers the whole story. Our conviction and how we landed there. McKenna's journey, the dyslexia, the college years we nearly committed to, and the pivot that changed everything. The benefits that matter most, and they are not the ones most families talk about. And three of the biggest objections Daniel and I hear constantly at every conference and in every conversation: "My children won't be socialized." We tell you exactly why that argument doesn't hold. "I'm not qualified." You know your child. No one in any classroom does. "We can't afford it." Daniel's answer is honest. It may not be comfortable. But it is true. This is the episode for the mom who has been turning this over in her mind for months and just needs someone to tell her she can do it. She can. 🌿🏹

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Ep. 22· September 2, 2026· 35 min

Starting Late: It's Never Too Late to Change Course

The most common message I get from moms is some version of the same question: "Allison, what do we do? Our child is already fifteen. We've already made all the mistakes. Is it too late?" It is not too late. Joel 2:25 says, "So I will restore to you the years that the swarming locust has eaten." God is in the business of restoration. That is not a metaphor for people who started early. It is a promise for parents who are right where you are. In this episode, Daniel and I sit down with Randy Schrum and talk through what it actually looks like to change course when your children are older. Not the inspiration of it. The practical steps. What to do when God shows you a better way and your teenagers have been living a different normal for years. How to not blow up your family while you're trying to call them higher. How to replace what you take away instead of just stripping things out and wondering why you're getting pushback. And why the family meeting you keep putting off is probably the most disarming thing you could do right now. We talk through something we came to understand the hard way: rules without relationship produce either rebellion or a performance you don't actually want. Repentance, a real conversation at the table, and a community of families going the same direction, those things change the culture of your home faster than any rule you post on the wall. We also talk about Gulf Coast Family Camp in this episode, because one of the most powerful things that happens there is watching families who thought they were too far behind realize they are not alone and not too late. Teenagers who thought their parents were out of their minds discovering a whole room full of young people who are living proof the standard works. If you have been afraid the window has closed, it hasn't. Go listen. And share this one with every parent who needs to hear it.

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Ep. 21· August 26, 2026· 40 min

When Your Spouse Is Not on the Same Page

Most of you are here because your husband isn’t with you on this. Daniel and Allison know that, because they hear from you every week. In this episode they walk through the three situations wives actually live in: the husband who isn’t a believer, the husband who is saved but passive, and the husband who loves the Lord but genuinely disagrees with the direction. Each one requires a different response. All three are grounded in what scripture actually says, not what feels fair. You’ll hear why nagging is not a strategy, what 1 Peter 3 is actually asking of you, how Proverbs is a book of wisdom not judgment, what it means to pick your battles versus giving ground that matters, and what it looks like to build your house rather than tear it down with your own hands. This is not a “both sides” episode. It is a conviction-forward conversation about the structure God gave the home, what headship and submission actually mean in practice, and why the wife who leads by her conduct wins more ground than the one who leads by her words. Allison is honest here: Daniel and she don’t agree on everything. But they agree on the biggies. And she is deeply sympathetic to the mom who doesn’t have that. That sympathy shows up in this episode as practical, biblical wisdom, not soft consolation. Gulf Coast Family Camp: GulfCoastFamilyCamp.com The Forge: arrowsandacres.com/the-forge

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Ep. 20· August 19, 2026· 45 min

Is Your Family Dangerous, or Just Difficult?

Twenty-seven percent of American adults have cut off contact with a family member. That is roughly 67 million people, and the Cornell researcher behind the number says his own figure is low because people would not admit it on the survey. Daniel and Allison Hartman sit down with Randy Schrum for a longer conversation than usual, because this one earned it. Between the two of them they can name five to ten families living this right now. Not families of the world. Christian families. Parents with an empty chair at the table and no idea what they did. This episode walks through seven words a generation has been handed, what each one actually means, and what it is being used to do. Disagreement has become harm. Correction has become injury. Responsibility given to a child at three or four years old, which a twenty year University of Minnesota study found to be the single best predictor of success in a person's mid twenties, now gets labeled as damage. There is real abuse in this world, and cutting off contact is sometimes necessary. That is not most of these cases. Most of these cases are a generation trained to name normal parenting as injury and to call walking away the cure. Scripture has a different answer. Forgiveness. Reconciliation. Conflict that sharpens instead of severs. Share this one with a mother who is parenting out of fear of losing her child. Join the tribe inside The Forge at ArrowsAndAcres.com.

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Ep. 19· August 12, 2026· 40 min

How to Build a Strong Family: Insights from the Stewart Family

Recorded on location at Gulf Coast Family Camp with Ben and Nilli Stewart, the family Daniel and Allison run the camp ministry alongside. Ben pastored for 21 years, coaches businesses for a living, and owns six of them. Nilli was diagnosed with leukemia at 19, back when she and Ben were still dating. The doctors gave her a four percent chance of living and told her children were unlikely. Nine children and 26 years of marriage later, they run family camps and purity retreats out of a ranch property in the Ozarks. This one is the most practical hour on the feed. Ben and Nilli open the entire operating system of their home: the family mission statement they hammered out over three days and revisit every year, the four bird framework they use to name what each person carries instead of getting frustrated with them, the annual vision retreat, the monthly goal reset, the 25 minute Saturday family meeting, and the fifteen minutes right after it that belongs to one child at a time so every child gets a real one on one about every nine weeks. Homeschool Monday through Thursday. Friday is a family work day and no client gets scheduled. Saturday is rest. Then it turns. Ben says the thing most Christian parents will flinch at: he does not need his children to obey him. He needs them to obey the Lord. He apologized to his son Zion for getting that backward. Control produces rebellion. Pointing children to Christ keeps their heart. "Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it." Proverbs 22:6 NKJV Come sit under teaching like this in person. Registration for Gulf Coast Family Camp is open at GulfCoastFamilyCamp.com Go deeper with the tribe inside The Forge: skool.com/the-forge-community/about

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Ep. 18· August 5, 2026· 37 min

The Continual Drip: What Control Is Costing Your Marriage, with Serene Allison

Marriages rarely fall apart in one loud moment. They erode. Quietly. One sigh, one silent treatment, one "are you sure that's right, darling" at a time. Allison recorded this one in the middle of Gulf Coast Family Camp with Serene Allison, co-founder of Trim Healthy Mama, her close friend and her co-grandmother by marriage. Serene has been married almost thirty years, and she says it took the first ten to stop being her husband's conscience and the next ten to stop trying to be his Holy Spirit. It started with a verse she could not get out of her head. Proverbs describes the contentious woman as "a continual dripping on a very rainy day." Serene read that for years and decided it did not apply to her. She was not a yeller. She was not dramatic. She was a helper. Then she looked harder at what a drip actually does. It does not flood a house in an afternoon. It erodes concrete over time. In this conversation: Why the small things are the dangerous things, the sigh, the silence, the quiet second-guess, and why most wives are tearing down the house with their own hands without ever knowing it. Behind the scenes control, which Serene calls control dressed up in a Sunday best hat. Organizing the children to organize their father. Hiding the corn chips. Managing a grown man's health, his schedule, and his reputation, and calling it help. Three pop quizzes in a single week. A friend's fiftieth birthday her husband decided to skip. Resurrection Sunday, muddy work boots, and the excuses she did not make for him. A laundry basket, a dark walk to an out building, and the silent treatment she had already planned in her head. Respect as a gift rather than a wage. Serene makes the case that a wife can honor the office of husband the way a citizen honors the office of president, before the man has done anything to earn it, and that respect is the currency a man runs on. The wife as thermostat, not thermometer. She does not react to the temperature of the home. She sets it. Why the years after the children leave are the reward and not the cliff, and what has to be built now for that season to be a honeymoon instead of a stranger sitting across the table. This is not soft counsel. Serene's whole argument is that the only person a wife can change is herself, and that the list of things needing work belongs on her own paper, not her husband's. "The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish pulls it down with her hands." Proverbs 14:1, NKJV. Recorded live at Gulf Coast Family Camp in Panama City Beach. Camp runs three times a year, and it is where conversations like this one happen all week long. GulfCoastFamilyCamp.com

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Ep. 17· July 29, 2026· 45 min

Who Decides How Many Children You Have?

Are these all yours? Do you know what causes that? Daniel and Allison Hartman have heard every comment a family with 11 children collects. This episode answers the question underneath all of them, and it is bigger than any headcount: who actually gets to decide? They told their premarital counselor they were planning on four children. Daniel quietly hoped for twelve. Then Scripture rewrote the plan, and what followed was never a numbers game. It was a trust game. In this episode: - The moment early in marriage that shifted how they thought about planning a family - Psalm 127 and the Hebrew word behind "heritage," an entrusted portion, not a burden - The movement people accuse them of, and why building identity on a headcount is idolatry - Money, time, and patience: the three objections every large family hears, and how each one collapsed in the Hartman home - The friend who lost a baby, and what trusting God with your womb actually promises - What Daniel and Allison say to the couple who is outnumbered, tired, and hearing it from everyone "Like arrows in the hand of a warrior, So are the children of one's youth." Psalm 127:4 NKJV Subscribe at ArrowsAndAcres.com and never miss an episode. Ready to go deeper than the podcast? Join Daniel and Allison inside The Forge, the Arrows & Acres membership community: https://www.skool.com/the-forge-community/about

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Ep. 16· July 22, 2026· 42 min

The Chore for Life: Ditch the Chart, Raise an Adult

Only about 1 in 4 children today have regular chores. Prior generations would not recognize that number, and neither does the research. One of the longest running studies on adult success ever conducted found two predictors that outrank GPA, income, and talent: loving relationships and doing chores as a child. In this episode, Daniel and Allison open up how their home of 13 actually runs. No sticker charts, no rotating lists. Every child owns a chore for life, from the three-year-old gathering eggs to the fourteen-year-old planning groceries and managing the family schedule. Inside this episode: - The chore for life system, and why every chart they tried failed - Age-by-age ownership: what a three-year-old, a nine-year-old, and a fourteen-year-old should be running - Why "it's not my chore" is a heart problem, not a scheduling problem - How older children train younger ones to take over, and why that's how their daughters could get married without the house missing a step - The buy-in principle: children who are part of the work don't walk away from the family at 18 "Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it." Proverbs 22:6 NKJV Chores are not a punishment. They are a training ground for stewardship, diligence, and adulthood. This is how you raise adults, not children. Subscribe on your favorite podcast channel, and join the newsletter at ArrowsAndAcres.com to be alerted when the next episode drops.

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Ep. 15· July 15, 2026· 42 min

The No Contact Movement: Why a Generation Is Cutting Off Their Parents

Somewhere between 30 and 40 percent of American adults are estranged from a family member right now. That is not a fringe statistic. That may be someone at your table. In this episode, Daniel and Allison Hartman sit down with Randy Schrum to name the no contact movement for what it is: an ideology moving through therapy offices, social media, and college campuses that teaches a generation that cutting off your family is self-care. They separate the rare cases where distance is truly warranted from the millions of estrangements built on nothing more than differing values, and they follow the money to an industry that profits every time a family stays broken. You will hear Daniel's story of cousins in the same town who did not speak for 20 years over an offense no one could remember, why online groups now celebrate how long someone has stayed no contact, and what scripture actually commands when there is conflict in a family: go to the person, make it right, and do not let the sun go down on your wrath. Obedience is for a season. Honor is for life. And if you are a parent with an estranged child, stay to the end. The last two minutes are for you. Scripture in this episode: Ephesians 4:26, Ephesians 6:1-3, Proverbs 13:20 (NKJV)

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Ep. 14· July 8, 2026· 40 min

Parenting for Decades, Not Days

Most families are running the same playbook: over-busied parents putting out temporary fires all day, children who reach adulthood unable to do laundry, cook a meal, or manage a budget. The question nobody is asking is simple. What is that playbook producing? In this episode, Daniel and Allison Hartman pull the lens back from days to decades. A University of Minnesota study tracked young adults over 20 years and found the best predictor of success in a person's mid twenties was participating in household tasks starting at age three or four. Not grades. Not programs. Responsibility. Daniel and Allison share how working alongside their children in the family businesses builds far more than skills. It builds relationship, work ethic, and the kind of adults who invite their parents to dinner, pick up the check, and read to the grandchildren on the couch. You will hear: Why "putting out fires" parenting produces unprepared adultsThe paradigm shift from running a hotel to raising a generationHow family work becomes the classroom for morality, skill, and callingWhy this is the most exciting news a worn-out mom will hear all year You are not setting your children up for success by doing everything for them. Start with one thing today. Learn more and join us at Gulf Coast Family Camp: ArrowsAndAcres.com

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Ep. 13· July 1, 2026· 43 min

The Marriage the Bible Actually Describes

Everyone wants a good marriage. Few people are building one. In this episode, Daniel and Allison Hartman open up the scriptures and open up their own 28 years together to answer the question most couples are afraid to ask plainly: what does a good marriage actually look like? They walk through Ephesians 5 the way it was written, starting at verse 21, not 22. They talk about the covenant that obliterates the contract mindset, the couple that prays together daily and has a divorce rate of less than one percent, and why the most dangerous season for a marriage is not the early years but the day the last child leaves home. Daniel and Allison also take on the lies couples quietly believe: that passion fades, that separate interests are healthy, that the 50 percent divorce rate in the church is just a statistic and not a warning. And they tell the truth about where they came from, because neither of them had a model to follow. This episode is conviction, not coaching. Scripture, not sentiment. And a picture of marriage so far above what culture is selling that it will either challenge you deeply or confirm what you have been quietly building all along. Proverbs 5. Ephesians 5. 1 Corinthians 7. All NKJV. Referenced in this episode: Gulf Coast Family Camp at GulfCoastFamilyCamp.com

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Ep. 12· June 24, 2026· 45 min

Courtship, Character, and Covenant

The culture hands your children a boyfriend at 13 and calls it normal. Scripture calls it something else. In this episode, Daniel and Allison Hartman take on one of the most avoided conversations in the Christian home: how you actually lead your children toward marriage with intention, integrity, and a covenant framework, not just hope and good intentions. This is not a method. It is a posture. And it starts with a question most parents never ask: is this relationship aimed at marriage, or are we just training them for divorce? Daniel and Allison speak from first-generation experience. They did not grow up in homes where this was modeled. They figured it out, sought wise counsel, and built a framework worth passing down. In this episode: - Why every relationship without the intention of marriage is just practice for heartbreak - The good, better, and best framework for navigating courtship - What betrothal, friendship-dating, and intentional-relationship models actually mean and when each applies - Why community accountability is not optional when covenant is the goal - The two traits Daniel and Allison train their children to look for in a future spouse: unoffendable and teachable - How the marriage covenant pictures Christ and the church, and why that picture is worth protecting "He who walks with wise men will be wise, but the companion of fools will be destroyed." Proverbs 13:20 (NKJV) If your children are old enough to notice the opposite sex, they are old enough for this conversation. Subscribe on your favorite podcast platform and visit ArrowsAndAcres.com for camps and resources. Want to go deeper? The Forge is the private community where Daniel and Allison go live every month with families who refuse to raise drifters. Courtship and dating is one of the first five workshops on the calendar. Learn more at arrowsandacres.com/the-forge

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Ep. 11· June 17, 2026· 42 min

Raising Contributors, Not Consumers

Daniel and Allison Hartman are in roughly 70 schools a year through their photography business. That means they get a snapshot of about 40,000 young people. What they see is sobering, and it does not change between public, private, and homeschool. We have raised a generation of consumers who cannot do the normal things. This episode is the antidote. Daniel and Allison walk through how they build producers instead of takers, starting younger than most parents think is possible. A four-year-old who scrambles eggs for the family. A twelve-year-old who runs her own kefir business and cooks dinner for forty. Sons who frame houses, put on roofs, and build tiny homes debt free. None of it is bragging. All of it is the fruit of one decision: raise the bar and refuse to do for your children what your children can learn to do themselves. You will hear the family economy model, why "solve your problem" is the most important sentence in their home, and how letting a child be told no at a farmers market booth builds the competence that survives the real world. "The borrower is servant to the lender." (Proverbs 22:7, NKJV) They are raising children who will never live there. Subscribe and listen, then come sharpen alongside other convicted parents inside The Forge. Iron sharpens iron (Proverbs 27:17). ArrowsAndAcres.com.

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Ep. 10· June 10, 2026· 40 min

No Phones, No Tablets, No Problem

Ninety-five percent of teenagers carry a smartphone. Many are online almost every waking hour, and children eight to eighteen now average more than seven hours a day on a screen. In that same window, teen depression and anxiety doubled. That is not a coincidence. It is a correlation no honest parent can ignore. In Episode 10, Daniel and Allison Hartman make the case that handing a child a phone is not a neutral act. It is opening the lid on the septic tank and inviting your children to climb in. Pornography, predators, dopamine loops engineered by the people who keep their own children off these devices, and the attention span of a goldfish are not rare accidents. They are the default setting. This is not a guilt trip. It is a battle plan. Daniel and Allison walk through how they guard the eye gate in their own home, why boredom is the birthplace of creativity, why full access and accountability protect a marriage and a household, and why raising children who can change a tire, run equipment, and build a house matters more than raising children who can scroll. Every generation gets a test. Screens are the test of this one. Decide today what you will do with it. "I will set nothing wicked before my eyes." Psalm 101:3, NKJV Subscribe to Arrows & Acres on your favorite platform and find us at ArrowsAndAcres.com.

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Ep. 9· June 3, 2026· 51 min

The Enemies of a Strong Family

Less than ten percent of Americans hold a biblical worldview. Among Gen Z, it is one percent. And the mental health numbers are climbing right alongside that collapse. This is not a coincidence. It is a warning. In this episode, Daniel and Allison Hartman sit down with Randy Schrum to name the forces actively working against your family, the enemies most parents never see coming until the damage is done. This is the survey. Each enemy gets its own deep-dive episode, but here is the full battlefield laid out in one place. Inside this episode: The collapse of the biblical worldview across four generations, and why anxiety and depression rose right behind it. The entertainment economy. Children ages eight to eighteen averaging seven and a half hours of screen time a day, and the eighty-one percent of children under thirteen who already own their own device. Financial bondage. Over eighteen trillion dollars in household debt, and how the borrower becomes slave to the lender. The spiritual passivity of men. Why most fathers are not destroyed by scandal but by slow surrender. Age segregation. How church and school pull families apart, the real history of the Sunday school movement, and the eighty-five percent of youth group students who fall away within three years. The purity crisis. Premarital sex normalized inside the walls of the church, and the explicit content epidemic in the home. The failure to build family buy-in, and the family mission statement that turns a household into a team. The trauma culture and the no contact movement, and the multigenerational blessing it is quietly destroying. The closing conviction is simple. If something fragments your family, stop doing it. If it draws your family closer, keep going. "Lo, children are a heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward. As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth." Psalm 127:3-4 Chapters: 00:00 Welcome and why this episode matters 01:00 Enemy 1: The collapse of the biblical worldview 07:43 Enemy 2: The entertainment economy and the screen-time crisis 12:12 Enemy 3: Financial bondage and the debt trap 16:00 Enemy 4: The spiritual passivity of men 23:19 Enemy 5: Age segregation in church and school 32:01 Enemy 6: The purity crisis 38:30 Enemy 7: Building family buy-in and a family mission 45:49 The trauma culture and the no contact movement New episodes every Wednesday at 5 AM EST. Listen, subscribe, and share with a family that needs it. Gulf Coast Family Camp is free and meets three times a year in Panama City Beach, Florida. Learn more at GulfCoastFamilyCamp.com More at ArrowsAndAcres.com

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Ep. 8· May 27, 2026· 36 min

Purity and The Digital Battlefield Part 2

Purity and the Digital Battlefield, Part 2 The conversation most families keep avoiding does not get easier by ignoring it. In Part 2, Daniel and Allison Hartman finish what they started and go straight at the heart of the matter. Image-based lust is not a problem that lives only out there in the culture. It is in conservative homes, in youth groups, in homeschool families. The studies say 93 percent of men admit to it. This is not a someday talk. It is a today talk. In this episode, Daniel and Allison get specific and practical. Why modesty starts with the parents and not the children. How Daniel handled the hard conversations with his sons-in-law before marriage. The safeguards they have actually built in their home, including why a screen never goes in a bedroom and why every screen faces the room. The red flags to watch for, like a child who suddenly wants to slip away and be alone. And why no app, block, or filter will ever reach what only the heart can settle. This was never about legalism. It is about families who want to please God more than they want to please people, and who are willing to stand alone to keep their children's hearts. "For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you should abstain from sexual immorality; that each of you should know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor." 1 Thessalonians 4:3-4 NKJV If you feel worn out, you are not alone. But there is no season of raising children where we get to coast. Be on your game. Finish the race strong. New episodes release Wednesday at 5 AM EST. Learn more and join us at family camp at ArrowsAndAcres.com.

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Ep. 7· May 20, 2026· 38 min

Purity and the Digital Battlefield Part 1

This is the conversation every family keeps avoiding, and it cannot wait any longer. Daniel and Allison Hartman go straight at the digital battlefield being waged for the hearts and minds of our children. The average age of first exposure is now 12. By 18, the overwhelming majority of boys and a majority of girls have already seen it. Most did not go looking. The algorithms went looking for them, on phones, on social apps, even on school-issued devices. This is not a teen issue. It is a heart issue, a marriage issue, and a parenting issue, and the data is a true emergency. Daniel and Allison walk through what this does to a child's brain, how it rewires reward and impulse control into addiction, how it sears the conscience, and how it quietly destroys marriages. They trace how it starts. A school tablet handed over with pure intentions. A fishing video that escalates one innocent click at a time. A shopping site one tap away from the gutter. Then they turn to what God says. The body is the temple of the Holy Spirit. The marriage bed is undefiled. We are bought with a price. "But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart." (Matthew 5:28, NKJV) And they get practical. The safeguards that actually hold. Why parents must own the devices. Why there are no devices in bedrooms and the doors stay open. The free phone lock most parents have never heard of. Why the answer to "when do I give my child a phone" may simply be never. For anyone already caught in it, hear this clearly: you are not damaged goods. This is about a 180, a turning, and a run toward freedom in Christ. IN THIS EPISODE The 2024 statistics every parent needs to hear, from the Institute for Family Studies and the American College of PediatriciansHow accidental exposure actually happens, and why school devices are a wide-open doorWhat it does to the brain, the conscience, and the marriageThe biblical case for purity, drawn straight from the WordSafeguards that work in a real home with real childrenThe modesty conversation: what are you selling, and who are you defraudingFreedom for the one already trapped, and how to lead a child backWhy your children's friendships either guard their hearts or undo everything This is Arrows & Acres. We are not building an audience. We are building a movement. New episodes every Wednesday at 5 AM EST. ArrowsAndAcres.com Gulf Coast Family Camp: GulfCoastFamilyCamp.com

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Ep. 6· May 13, 2026· 56 min

The Woman Who Builds: Proverbs 31 Is a Blueprint, Not a Guilt Trip

For two generations women have been told Proverbs 31 is impossible, oppressive, or worse, a quiet shaming wrapped in poetry. Daniel and Allison Hartman walk verse by verse through the most misunderstood chapter in the Bible and show what culture buried. She is not a doormat. She is a builder. She is not silent. She is the loudest voice in the gates. She is not waiting until 30 to start her life. She is already running her household, her businesses, and her ministry. In this episode: The real cost of the career-first script and the children women never have Why "I birthed all my employees" is a Proverbs 31 economic strategyHow Allison turned one son selling moringa trees into two markets with over a thousand vendorsThe trust contract between husband and wife the modern home has lostWhy meekness is controlled strength, not weaknessThe power of the tongue over your children, illustrated with one three year old and a poorly made bedAnd the closing line that defines the whole chapter: she did not apologize for her life Scripture: Proverbs 31, Psalm 127:3, John 8:36 Subscribe so you never miss a podcast drop. Then send this to someone in your life who needs to hear it. wsfpm6im

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Ep. 5· May 6, 2026· 50 min

Authority Isn't a Dirty Word

Authority has been turned into a trigger word — patriarchy, oppression, control, “toxic.” Modern culture has spent decades feminizing fathers, ridiculing the dad on every sitcom, and convincing a generation of parents that the loving thing to do is back off, soft-pedal the rules, and “gentle parent” their children into chaos. In this episode, Daniel and Allison Hartman make the case that the absence of biblical authority in the home isn’t kindness — it’s cruelty. Children aren’t rebelling against rules. They’re rebelling against rules without relationship. They’re rebelling against hypocrisy. They’re rebelling against parents who lay down the law from a recliner instead of laying down their lives. DANIEL AND ALLISON UNPACK: Why “rules without relationship lead to rebellion” — and what that actually looks like in the homeThe two destructive extremes wrecking families right now: heavy-handed authoritarianism and “gentle parenting” with no spineHow biblical authority is built on hours clocked, not titles claimedThe “no contact” movement seeping into churches — and how youth pastors are validating kids out of their own familiesWhy authority modeled in the marriage is the foundation everything else stands onThe Malachi 4 promise: the hearts of fathers turning to their children, or the whole world falls under a curse This isn’t theory. It’s eleven children, twenty-eight years of marriage, married kids who choose to be at the family dinner table almost every night, and a son-in-law who told them, “I didn’t expect you to be the kind of mother-in-law you are — I just want to be around you guys.” Authority done God’s way doesn’t push your children away. It draws them in for life. 📜 Get our FREE manifesto, Raise Adults, Not Children: ⁣ https://arrowsandacres.kit.com/manifesto⁣

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Ep. 4· April 29, 2026· 34 min

Don't Put Your Child in a Box

Daniel and Allison Hartman were doing everything counter-culturally — homeschooling, guarding their kids' hearts, building a family camp from scratch — and then quietly pushing their oldest daughter straight toward a four-year degree. Because that's just what good Christian families do. Then two mentors sat them down at family camp and asked the question that cracked the whole plan open: "Why would you want to put your child in a box?" In this episode, Daniel and Allison get honest about the pivot that changed everything — and what it cost them socially when they made it. They talk about the college lie, the opportunity cost most parents never calculate, throwing smartphones in the garbage, training kids to recognize bad influences, and why "you don't have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great." They also share the line Allison keeps coming back to: "We did not do it right." Because raising adults isn't about getting it perfect. It's about being humble enough to pivot when the Lord makes your thoughts agreeable to His. If you've ever followed the script everyone else is following and quietly wondered if it's the right one — this one is for you. We are not raising children. We are raising adults. 🌅 Join us at Gulf Coast Family Camp — three times a year in Panama City Beach. Details at ArrowsAndAcres.com. 🎧 New episodes weekly. Subscribe wherever you listen. #RaiseAdults #IntentionalParenting #HomeschoolCommunity #ChristianFamily #DontPutThemInABox

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Ep. 3· April 22, 2026· 42 min

We Took the Devices. We're Not Sorry

Daniel and Allison Hartman on why they pulled the plug — and why they'd do it again. A candid conversation about devices, homeschooling, family worship, large families, and raising children who don't blend in. From skipping the nursery to guarding purity in a digital age, this is what it looks like to parent by conviction instead of culture. Not a method. A stance.

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Ep. 2· April 15, 2026· 31 min

We Are Not Raising Children, We Are Raising Adults (Part 2)

Most parents are so busy managing childhood they never stop to ask: what kind of adult am I actually building? In this episode, Daniel and Allison Hartman make the case that the shift starts with a single decision — to stop parenting for right now and start parenting for twenty years from now. That means handing kids real responsibility before you think they're ready, making family devotions a non-negotiable anchor in the chaos, and keeping your eyes fixed on the only finish line that actually matters: a fully formed disciple. This isn't a conversation about behavior management. It's about what it looks like to build people — on purpose, with conviction, from the ground up. In this episode: Why empowering children through real responsibility changes everythingHow family devotions create the spiritual backbone your kids will carry into adulthoodWhy discipleship — not achievement, not college, not success — is the ultimate goal of Christian parenting If you've ever felt like you're just reacting to your kids instead of forming them, this episode is your reset.

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Ep. 1· April 7, 2026· 38 min

We Are Not Raising Children, We Are Raising Adults (Part 1)

The conversation covers the planning of Ethan's wedding, the Gulf Coast family camp, the philosophy of raising adults instead of children, and practical tips for training children for independence. The Hartmans also discuss their family business and the importance of training children to be capable adults. Takeaways Raising AdultsFamily BusinessTraining Children for Independence Chapters 00:00 Ethan's Wedding Planning06:54 Raising Adults, Not Children24:03 Practical Tips for Raising Adults

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